When I look at this picture, it brings a smile into my face, because I not only think I am beautiful, happy and stunning, but it also brings great and ever lasting memories I had, and no one, can take it away from me.
Many times, people who don’t know me, has asked my marital status and when I say I am divorced they usually say “I am so sorry to hear…”my response is to stay quiet, because I very much respect people’s opinion, but for the most part, their opinion is to think that divorce is a negative situation, which yes, it can be, many people go through “not so wanted happy times”, but I want to say that I had a very different experience.
I, personally, have a different opinion, as I have a perspective that if a “relationship”, either romantic, friendship or anything between is not working for one of them, it needs to be talked through, where both must to feel happy to be able to keep going with it or find a way which both will be ok with it. For my ex-husband and myself, divorce was the answer. Today, as we are friends, we can see that it has not only improved ourselves even further, but it has allowed us to support and love each other in a completely different and deeper level.
I disagree my marriage didn’t work. IT DID WORK! For all the lessons, great memories and times we shared together as a couple. I am extremely grateful to have learned from him in many amazing ways, not to mention the trivial things that every so often I report myself back to those times and I become even more grateful to have had him into my life. The fact the we are no longer together, doesn’t mean I think he is not a great guy or the marriage material, he so is, he is a gentleman and had always been there in many difficult and happy times.
I wouldn’t have become who I am today if he hasn’t been with me in this journey, my heart says that he has been one of my spiritual contracts. One more reason why it has worked…
I also have learned that love goes way beyond the physical aspect of “having” someone living with you “forever”. Give yourself to someone at any given moment, fully present (spiritual, emotional and physical), is one of the biggest love indications you can give someone, anything after is uncertain because we don’t know the day of tomorrow.
For me, tomorrow has come and here I am, being grateful for a time when the present was just a glimpse of my sense of being present…
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